“Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you’re worthy of the trip.”
― Glenn Beck
How do you define your self-worth? Is it by the job you have? Your status in society? Or the money you make, the car you drive, or the brand of your clothes? Or are you so secure in your self-awareness that you don’t even think about it? This struggle with identity and value is one of the core areas that life coaching helps individuals navigate with clarity and confidence.
Those who grossly under estimate themselves and those with an intrinsic low sense of self-worth respond in two possible extreme ways. The first is to act to realise their beliefs through under-performing, subjecting themselves to oppressive management, failing to maximise their potential through seeking better jobs and generally convincing themselves that their lot in life is to be unhappy, unappreciated, unfulfilled and unrewarded.
The alternative response for those with the capacity, is to work exceptionally hard, drive themselves relentlessly and mercilessly to achieve more and more, possibly do very well in their careers, make a lot of money, but yet continuing to feel unhappy, since nothing they can do will compensate for their belief that the world has yet to confer its highly craved approval upon them.
Those who are in addition susceptible to external suasion may fall in thrall of media messages that persuade them to define how valuable they are by acquisition of and showing off the material accoutrements available in the crass consumer marketplace. Many high achievers only discover these hidden patterns when working with an experienced personal coach who helps them uncover the deeper beliefs driving their behaviour.
What about people with an overly grand sense of their own self-worth? Again, there are a couple of possible extreme responses. One is that despite being relatively mediocre in capabilities and performance, they live in a cloud cuckoo land of the perfect, refusing to acknowledge their deficiencies, arrogantly believing that the problem always lies with others and blithely carrying on with neither insight nor introspection, until they derail in a major train wreck further along the line.
On the other hand, truly capable and successful people can also have such an exaggerated sense of their own self-worth that they lose all sense of reality. A medical example comes to mind. A well-known doctor was found guilty by the Singapore Medical Council for egregious overcharging of a patient by presenting a bill for SGD$24M for about half a year’s care, but believing that this was fully justified, the doctor went to the Court of Appeal, who in a scathing judgement, upheld the Medical Council’s verdict and denounced what the judges considered utterly unjustified and excessive charges, way out of proportion to the level of services provided.
So, it is possible for even excellent people to derail themselves by an over-estimation of their worth. Through structured reflection and emotional insight, health coaching can support individuals in recalibrating their wellbeing and reconnecting with grounded self-awareness.
For leaders and professionals, targeted team coaching also helps break unproductive cycles and rebuild healthier relational dynamics. So how do you define your self-worth? Most people do not fall in the extreme scenarios described above. Many people merely live their lives with a vague and increasing feeling of discontent. If you are not sure where you really stand and somehow you are not in the place you feel in your heart of hearts you ought to be, you may benefit from life coaching.
With the help of your life coach, you can explore yourself, your station in life and your potential to achieve what you really want. Helping people find their true worth and their true purpose in life is the very purpose of coaching. In fact, in shared settings, group coaching enables individuals to learn from one another, gain perspective, and accelerate personal breakthroughs.
What are you worth?
“Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you’re worthy of the trip.”
― Glenn Beck
How do you define your self-worth? Is it by the job you have? Your status in society? Or the money you make, the car you drive, or the brand of your clothes? Or are you so secure in your self-awareness that you don’t even think about it? This struggle with identity and value is one of the core areas that life coaching helps individuals navigate with clarity and confidence.
Those who grossly under estimate themselves and those with an intrinsic low sense of self-worth respond in two possible extreme ways. The first is to act to realise their beliefs through under-performing, subjecting themselves to oppressive management, failing to maximise their potential through seeking better jobs and generally convincing themselves that their lot in life is to be unhappy, unappreciated, unfulfilled and unrewarded.
The alternative response for those with the capacity, is to work exceptionally hard, drive themselves relentlessly and mercilessly to achieve more and more, possibly do very well in their careers, make a lot of money, but yet continuing to feel unhappy, since nothing they can do will compensate for their belief that the world has yet to confer its highly craved approval upon them.
Those who are in addition susceptible to external suasion may fall in thrall of media messages that persuade them to define how valuable they are by acquisition of and showing off the material accoutrements available in the crass consumer marketplace. Many high achievers only discover these hidden patterns when working with an experienced personal coach who helps them uncover the deeper beliefs driving their behaviour.
What about people with an overly grand sense of their own self-worth? Again, there are a couple of possible extreme responses. One is that despite being relatively mediocre in capabilities and performance, they live in a cloud cuckoo land of the perfect, refusing to acknowledge their deficiencies, arrogantly believing that the problem always lies with others and blithely carrying on with neither insight nor introspection, until they derail in a major train wreck further along the line.
On the other hand, truly capable and successful people can also have such an exaggerated sense of their own self-worth that they lose all sense of reality. A medical example comes to mind. A well-known doctor was found guilty by the Singapore Medical Council for egregious overcharging of a patient by presenting a bill for SGD$24M for about half a year’s care, but believing that this was fully justified, the doctor went to the Court of Appeal, who in a scathing judgement, upheld the Medical Council’s verdict and denounced what the judges considered utterly unjustified and excessive charges, way out of proportion to the level of services provided.
So, it is possible for even excellent people to derail themselves by an over-estimation of their worth. Through structured reflection and emotional insight, health coaching can support individuals in recalibrating their wellbeing and reconnecting with grounded self-awareness.
For leaders and professionals, targeted team coaching also helps break unproductive cycles and rebuild healthier relational dynamics. So how do you define your self-worth? Most people do not fall in the extreme scenarios described above. Many people merely live their lives with a vague and increasing feeling of discontent. If you are not sure where you really stand and somehow you are not in the place you feel in your heart of hearts you ought to be, you may benefit from life coaching.
With the help of your life coach, you can explore yourself, your station in life and your potential to achieve what you really want. Helping people find their true worth and their true purpose in life is the very purpose of coaching. In fact, in shared settings, group coaching enables individuals to learn from one another, gain perspective, and accelerate personal breakthroughs.
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